Even the best marriages can go through difficult times. Over time, the excitement of the relationship may start to wane. Nevertheless, there are measures that spouses can take to keep their relationship fun and exciting. Here are a few of them.

Keep Dating

Once a couple gets married, hectic schedules and regular responsibilities can make romantic dates seem unimportant. However, many couples grow closer as they spend quality time together. As a result, it can be helpful to schedule a weekly date night.

Share Your Thoughts in Romantic Notes

Romantic messages can make the receiving spouse feel appreciated and loved. Handwritten notes can be slipped into a partner's lunchbox, briefcase, or purse. If a pen and piece of paper are not handy, an electronic message will suffice. Texting or sexting a spouse can be a great way to add a bit of spice to the relationship. 

Do the Unexpected

Marriage can often feel routine and boring without an occasional surprise. Unexpected loving gestures, such as a surprise massage, gift, or night at a local hotel, can keep the relationship from falling into a rut.

Share a New Experience

Every person has something that he or she would like to do but has never tried. Trying something for the first time as a couple can add excitement to the relationship and help the spouses bond.

The new experience doesn't have to be something as extreme as bungee jumping or parachuting. Instead, it just has to be new. Taking a dance class, learning yoga, or going horseback riding can also be thrilling.

Make Friends

Sometimes, spending time with other couples can help add a bit of excitement to a relationship. Other people who have similar beliefs can help remind you of why you got married in the first place.

Have Intimate Talks

When spouses share their deepest dreams and hopes with one another, they increase their bond. By maintaining an understanding of a partner's priorities and desires, the other spouse can offer loving support.

Actively Listen

Actively listening to your spouse can help him or her feel loved. You can actively listen by maintaining eye contact, nodding in affirmation, and asking questions that relate to what your partner has said. When a partner feels ignored, he or she is less likely to feel appreciated and important in the relationship.

For more ways to keep your marriage healthy and exciting, schedule a consultation with a relationship counselor, such as Sharon O'Connell, MA, in your local area.

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